Reclaiming Your Boundaries: From People-Pleasing to Self-Trust with Tracy Smith

The Season of Seld Love with Nyomi Banks

What if saying “no” to others is the greatest act of saying “yes” to yourself? In this empowering Wisdom Wednesday episode of The Season of Self-Love Podcast, host Nyomi Banks welcomes author and storyteller Tracy Smith to explore the journey from chronic people-pleasing and self-abandonment to deep self-trust, authentic boundaries, and unapologetic self-worth.

Tracy shares the honest, relatable story behind her memoir, The Purpose of Getting Lost, and reveals how her solo travels and life transitions helped her rediscover her voice, needs, and value beyond the roles of mother, partner, and employee. Together, Nyomi and Tracy discuss the cost of always saying yes to others, the guilt and fear that keep women stuck in old patterns, and the profound freedom that comes from honoring your own boundaries with compassion.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to recognize the signs of people-pleasing and self-abandonment

• The difference between boundaries set from fear and boundaries set from self-love

• Why boundaries are not walls, but acts of love and self-acceptance

• Practical daily practices to check in with your truth and give yourself permission to choose you

• How to navigate guilt, family expectations, and the pressure to be “everything to everyone”

• Tips for reinventing yourself, honoring your needs, and finding belonging within